Imperfect life

Sarah Darling’s life got seriously plunged into an a imperfect life when she discovered she lost her most loved diamond ring. She almost never took it off, but it was giving her a bit of a rash so she did, zipping it in her coin purse for safe keeping. Later, she absentmindedly emptied the contents of that purse into the collection cup of Billy Ray Harris, who is homeless and often stays under a bridge in Darling’s hometown. — A good deed– that gave her happiness. It wasn’t until the next day that she realized her ring was gone. These were her words then. “It was horrible. It was such a feeling of loss,” Darling said. “It meant so much to me beyond just the financial value.” Was she happy after losing the ring? Billy Ray Harris, who is homeless and often sleeps under a bridge, however noticed the ring in his bowl and instead of pawning it off and making a few extra bucks, kept the ring safely, hoping for the owner to return for it. How usual is that for a homeless man to do? Darling however went back to the place she had given her money to Mr. Harris, He was gone. But she returned the next day and found Billy Ray Harris there. Sarah Darling asked him … ‘I don’t know if you remember me, but I think I gave you something that’s very precious to me,’ and he said, ‘Was it a ring? Yeah, I have it, I kept it for you “. Imagine how Happy Sarah would have been when she heard this?...

Spiritual Wellness

We talked about the 6 situations or circumstances our social circumstances, our financial circumstances, our physical circumstance, our mental circumstance and our environmental circumstance. A newly evolving circumstance is our spiritual circumstance. Circumstance is a fact or condition connected with or relevant to an event or action; An event or fact that causes or helps to cause something to happen, typically something undesirable Lets talk a bit about the last one..Spiritual Wellness. VIktor Frankl invented what’s called Logotherapy. What might be the connection between Logotherapy and our group’s theme? A lot. Logotherapy is the powerful psychospiritual wellness aspect of existential psychology that was developed by Dr. Viktor Frankl who was the successor to Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler in the Third Viennese School of psychiatry. The core of this therapy lies the belief that besides Maslow’s Motivational theory of Needs, there is one other need i.e. to live with a consistent sense of meaning. You can find more practical resources here;http://www.logotherapy.fulfillmentforum….Next week we’ll touch on more ideas to maximize our Spiritual wellness. Before i go i share a story My Son, 11-year old, was going thru his growing years and was out of school last week overcoming mild case of chiken pox. As we did not want him to miss out i called his form teacher and let him know what’s going on. We talked about options to get his home assignments to reach him. After assessing various options the form teacher suggested the following: He will swing by my apartment twice a week and drop this assignments in our letter box. My son will complete these assignments and...

Defined Happiness

We have defined Happiness as being contextually influenced state of well-being. We have called out 6 contexts to be happy that will cover 80% or more of our activities of daily living. Now lets combine the two and see what we get for Perfect Happiness. Perfect happiness is Happiness that has all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. By derivation from a perfect life earlier..an Imperfect life could be one either not having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics and if it did have all the required or desirable elements, qualities or characteristics then its not as good as it is possible to be OR a combination of both. So the question is how do you fill in all the gaps in elements or possibilities…and make it whole…? One could think of doing this if one knew how much i am exceeding in some element and how much i have a shortfall in another, and knowing how one could ‘transfer’ the excess into the shortfall and make it...

The definition of Happiness

Lets now move on to what is the definition of Happiness. wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn defines Happiness as a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. What my research shows is that Happiness is contextual and you can acheive happiness that looks different in different situations or circumstances. So it is important to define what might be some of the most significant circumstances in our lives so we hit the big 80. Several researchers have sought to identify aspects of our life to know what are the significant ways we use out time, places we frequent, things we do, how we perceive what we sense, how we view the need for money etc. By and large some common themes appear. These aspects can be chunked up broadly into are our social circumstances, our financial circumstances, our physical circumstance, our mental circumstance and our environmental circumstance. A newly evolving circumstance is our spiritual circumstance. Circumstance is a fact or condition connected with or relevant to an event or action or fact that causes or helps to cause something to happen, typically something...

Perfect life

Now lets move to perfect life..taking the definition of perfect earlier a ‘Perfect life is a life having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. Who decides what the required or desirable elements are–the answer is YOU. Who would know what is possible. Again the answer is –YOU. But you need to know how to know because often we revise our assessment of what is possible if we get someone to coach or mentor...

How can people living imperfect lives achieve perfect happiness?

How can people living imperfect lives achieve perfect happiness? there are several terms that need defining here before this question can be answered. What is the definition of happiness, what is the definition of perfect Happiness, is it even definable? what is a perfect or imperfect life. what is the definition of the adjective ‘perfect’… Lets start with the last– The adjective Perfect is defined in the Merriam-Webster and dictionaryOnline as paragraphs..not a phrase..Google defines it as Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. What is possible for one may not be the case for the other. Hence perfect is relative and there can be many interpretations of perfect..all perfectly...